i have been a jw all my life, while i also have a "spiritual divorce", which means i can remarry a jw again.
i am not sure if i want to go that route again and dating in the jw world feels like a struggle sometimes.
with all the rules.
Women aren't that complicated 😀
Until you get your head untangled, keep it casual. I found that joining groups where there was a common interest - like community sports leagues were a great place to make new friends and have some fun. Also volunteering - I did work at the animal shelter and found it to be soothing to help something that was more helpless than me. These activities also took up time so I didn't sit around thinking about JW stuff.
i posted a month or two ago about my recently disfellowshipped sister who was feeling massive amounts of shame and doubt.
i moved out of my home state 5 years ago so she has come to visit me twice since she has been df'd and she loves it here.
i am a recovered alcoholic (5 years clean and sober) and spend my days with the most amazing non judgmental people i've ever met.
One of my siblings blames me for their child leaving the JWs when I had no idea the child was even leaning in that direction. The JW mindset is always looking for someone to blame for a persons choice to leave because it couldn't possibly be the batshit crazy religion.
i hope you can keep all of you familial relationships intact.
as you probably might know already, i already posted some lengthy posts about my situation,here: part 1 and here: part 2 is here.. to make it short, four weeks ago, my wife confessed that she cheated on me and immediately went upstairs to pack and to leave.
this was planned from beforehand because she already managed for an apartment in a different city and a job there.
the next day she sent an email to the elders out confessing of her wrong doings and wishing to get disassociated.. as a reason why she left, she told me, that we should have never married, because we don't fit together.
Sometimes you are given a gift even though it doesn't feel like it right now. You have the opportunity to explore the person you want to be without a manipulative influence. The fact that she blames you for her actions should be a red flag to you. I hope you find peace and happiness as you move through this. When I left I was told that it was ok to be mad/sad but not to get stuck there, make sure you keep moving forward.
"blue" lives matter!
- sheriff david clarke at the rnc.
this bs really makes my blood boil.
Never a JW- I am a white female, who flies to SLC on a regular basis and I have been pulled into the "special room" to be searched and or interrogated three times. I don't think they are profiling me. In fact I travel often and have had that experience in Las Vegas, Baltimore, and Newark in addition to SLC. It's just the luck of the draw sometimes.
As far as the rest of this discussion I agree with Simon this time.
hi everyone, it has been a while since i've last updated!
(refer to my previous posts for the full story) here is a quick re-cap: 2 months ago my mother found out that i am living with my boyfriend, she told me i was discovered by an "anonymous" tipper who turned me in for "living in sin".. first of all, that is nearly impossible, the congregation i was in is 100's of miles away from where i currently live.. no one would have ever known i was living with my boyfriend unless i told them, which i never did, i cut off all communication with that congregation in part of my attempted fade which was blown into pieces and discovered.. anyways, my mom tells me if i don't go to the elders and confess like a good little sheep, then she is obligated to tell them.. ( don't see why, i don't even live under her roof ) well i never went to them because why should i?
so they met with my mother and she told them i live with my boyfriend... let me remind you, this was two months ago.. i was told i was going to be df'd and that was that.
Don't feel bad, for a time I had to not tell my family where I lived for the same reasons. We are on good terms now(as good as it can be with the cult involved). But it took a couple of years of reverse shunning to get the point across. You have to protect yourself from the harassment.
we really went at it this weekend.
pretty ugly!
well at least now the air is cleared.
Wishing you all the happiness your freedom will bring.
and it is still ongoing ?.
obviously sparked off by the 2 afro american citizens gunned down by police officers these past few days.?.
when is this sort of violence going to end ?.
The police in my area are good guys. They support the community, volunteer with youth groups, and go to the schools for outreach programs. They have degrees and are required to pass physical fitness tests twice per year. They are not fat, dumb, and uneducated. Please don't generalize - there are a lot of good cops out there that do good things every day. They have bought food for people who were stranded, the police forces here give away car seats and bike helmets, teach high school students about drinking and driving and wearing seat belts. And these are only the stories I hear about, I am sure there are more good things I don't know about. There are a few bad cops that get a lot of press but there are a lot of good cops you never hear about.
this is what happened.
i had a sore tendon in my wrist.
i could work with it, but nevertheless the pain was there.
Redpill- I don't think I can answer OC questions any better than I have. You have to be present and it requires touch. I think that alone makes it so she couldn't heal someone without their knowledge because their presence is required.
The person I see tells you up front it's not magic and anyone can learn how to do it with the proper training, but as with anything else some people are better at it than others. And she has told me some people do the energy work for animals. My friends and I joke that it is magic because you can't really explain how it works in a way that makes sense.
this is what happened.
i had a sore tendon in my wrist.
i could work with it, but nevertheless the pain was there.
It's kind of like a massage but you don't remove your clothes, and she works with energy, instead of massaging a muscle. She can feel where energy isn't flowing properly and then goes about fixing that area. She does need to touch you for it to work, so she couldn't just see a picture of you and do anything. I went to her originally by accident when scheduling what I thought was a regular massage, but I am glad I found her.
this is what happened.
i had a sore tendon in my wrist.
i could work with it, but nevertheless the pain was there.
The lady that I see says it doesn't matter if you believe her or not it works anyway.
